Sometimes it’s hard to admit we need help even when it seems the bleakest of situations. The dictionary defines crisis as: a crucial turning point or decisive moment in events. A sudden change in the course of events where conflict toward either improvement or deterioration, reaches its highest tension and must be resolved.
We all have been in a crisis at one time or the other in our life. Unresolved issues pile up. Unexpected events take place. We feel helpless or hopeless. But in fact, a crisis is temporary unless we ignore it. Then it becomes a disaster. What do we do to get out of a crisis?
In our modern society often we feel alone or isolated. We may see this in ourselves or in our friends and family. If left unattended these feeling may manifest themselves in many ways including: depression, stress, drug and alcohol abuse and violence either toward themselves or others. This will eventually lead to a crisis situation and the way to head off a crisis is to catch it before it becomes overwhelming. What to do in a crisis:
Remove yourself from the situation and view it from another perspective.
Make a plan and act on it.
Seek council. Have a support team.
Depression is the #1 cause of suicide and it comes in many forms affecting young and old – male and female. Often we recognize it in others before we can see it within ourselves. Recognize the signs of depression before it becomes a crisis:
constant feelings of sadness
irritability or tension
a change in appetite, with significant weight loss or weight gain
decreased interest or pleasure in usual activities or hobbies
a change in sleeping patterns
decreased ability to make decisions or concentrate
feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, or guilt
thoughts of suicide or death.
Here are five tips on helping if you know someone is in trouble.
Don’t ignore it.
Be direct with your concerns.
Listen without judgment.
Let them know there are options.
Let them know you are there for them.
Crisis Intervention Help Lines are an invaluable source of help with both referrals as well as “short therapy” that can divert an issue from becoming a full-blown crisis. Simply talking to someone can give us a temporary reprieve from the feelings we are having by just the exchange of emotions of empathy and concern. There is no need to feel embarrassed to call a Help Line and it doesn’t have to be a big dramatic event. Often you may not even know the condition you were in until you’ve addressed the issues, then looking back you will see that it makes a difference.
If you find yourself in a crisis seek help before it’s too late. Many Help Lines also have Spanish-speaking counselors and are available 24/7. The key is to catch it in time and to remember you are not alone.
The following are a list of respected Crisis Hotlines. All are confidential.
|Suicide Hotline||800.SUICIDE (784.2433)|
|National Domestic Violence Hotline||800.787.3224|
|Elder Abuse Hotline||800.677.1116|
|National Rape Crisis Hotline||800.656.4673|
|Missing Children’s Network||800.843.5678|
|Confidential Runaway Hotline||800.786.2929|
|National Youth Crisis Hotline||800.442.4673|
|National Cocaine Hotline||800.262.2463|
|National Human Trafficking||888-373.7888|
On the web:
http://www.thehotline.org (domestic abuse)
Don Reed Simmons is the founder of Visionary Business Consultants, an innovative approach to business and the Institute of Mindful Living, an organization formed to bring awareness of Mindfulness in everyday living at home, at work, in schools and life. Don is a former crisis intervention counselor, writer and filmmaker in New York City, Los Angeles and Honolulu and is now one of the most successful and sought after Intuitives for over 15 years helping thousands of people create a more fulfilled life and business.